Should I abandon the family business i worked 14 years for a better opportunity abroad?

My family bussines started 45 years ago. I had decided to take off due to inestabilty of the country where i live. Due to political and economical situation finances in our company are not doing good. Last week I recieved a job proposal from abroad and spoke with my dad about it . He got ballistic . My mom called me also stating i will give my dad a heart attack . My wife thinks it is a good chance and oportunity to leave the country and have a better life abroad with more oportunities. She is afraid of my other brothers to take advantage of me someday will kick me out from the family bussines. She knows i will not fight them . That's why i rather go and find a new way of living . I am still young ( 30 yrs ) but i don't want to break my dad's heart who has been a good mentor, a friend and a boss , but everytime i want to do something for my own , like studies or personal oportunities , he find it difficult to let me do what i have to do .

Should I abandon the family business i worked 14 years for a better opportunity abroad?
Darling. I understand you perfecly ! Really ! My dad also tryed to tell me what/how to do all the time... Then , i left ... like you : for a better life ) and he is actually happy for me ! He realises now that i couldn't have done all that i did if i was to stay home and live the life he wanted me to.


So... listen to your heart ! Listen to your wife (the decisions you take together should stand as priorityes before everything else ) ...And... listen to your heart !... Don't you think that , if you stay , in time , you'll hate yourself for missing this opportunuty ? ... Don't you think that , in thime , you'll hate your father for dictating to you how to leave ?





Yes , is the family bussines , and is the family tradition to get involved with the bussines... but: your family now is the one you have with your wife ! Never mind the brothers ...and the rest : Your WIFE is yur family now !





So : LEAVING


-will give you the chance to live without your father's authority


-will give you and your wife a better life


-it will make you happyer , couse you'll be doing something you like


-it will make you happyer , couse you succeded on your oun , without your father's help


-it will open new horisons for you..and maybe you'll gain knowledge to help the bussines better then if you where to stay home
Reply:follow your heart. go where the grass is greener, for lack of better words. you are jeopardizing your relationships with your family unless the connections you have with them are sooooooo tight that they will take offense and hold grudges.
Reply:I think your wording here is critical,..."ABANDON"!! You feel like you are abandoning your father/family if you choose a career outside of the family business. This is a TREMENDOUSLY complicated issue that, to be fully addressed, would require working with BOTH you and your father (and maybe other family business members), in order to help ALL members who are involved to best understand each other's needs. There is a great organization (Family Firm Institute - http://www.ffi.org) that trains lawyers, business folks, family counselors, etc. on how to work with family businesses. Look through their list of consultants, you would surely benefit from getting someone involved with the WHOLE family!





Also, there is a new Yahoo Group for family business members to give and get advice from OTHER family business members:


http://finance.groups.yahoo.com/group/Fa...